The Chapter is Closed

The thing is, is that I like a good debate once in awhile, to brew things up like crazy, shake and stir. In my belief, it's one of the few ways to really get past the superficial and get somewhere. I used to think that quarrels were an ineffective way to communicate, but my relationships, especially with my husband, have only grown stronger because of that because we get to the heart of things. E and his mom fight ALL the time, and they are very close. We can't all agree on anything and everything and it's good to position ourselves on our own side of things, however passionate we are, and fight it out. DISCLAIMER: Not ALL the time, but sometimes. And, if we don't do that, then our relationships stay the mundane, superficial facts of everyday life and we don't learn to grow and it's no wonder that even the slightest bit of disagreement will cause the relationship to go haywire.

When I was talking with Etienne in the car last night about my recent rejection from the online groups, he said "Why are you wasting your time analyzing what happened and why? If you really have friends or people you were hoping to have as friends in that group, an incident like this one, whether you were agressive or not towards them, would not inhibit a friendship, it's secondary to what should make your relationships thrive, how many times have I had heated debates with my friends and you still see us talking and continuing to have debates, if we stopped at that, then we would never have any friends". And, he's right, and I'm going to chalk it up to that. The chapter is closed.